Relationships, Body & I

I had posted this piece on another blog of mine but it is relevent here too.

Relationships – my viewpoint

What is a relationship?
Its any exchange between two people based on mutual recognition with the aim of mutual happiness.

Mutual Recognition: Recognizing each other in some capacity like parent, child, sibling, spouse, friend, co-worker, lover etc.

Mutual happiness: The intent is to interact in such a way so that both people involved experience joy in it.

Even though aim for mutual happiness is always there but due to various reasons it is seldom achieved, or should I say it is not achieved consistently.

What kinds of exchanges take place in a relationship?
All interactions between people have mental and physical aspects.

When I see myself then following is how I see these two aspects in myself:

1. I am a human


2. My humanness has two components physical mental (conscious)


3. They are two separate identities in nature


4. My humanness is the expression of co-existence of both these identities


5. My physical identity is my body


6. My conscious identity is the part where following processes take place
• Feelings
• Thinking (analysis comparision)
• Imagination (memory, visualization, planning, evaluation)
• Understanding
• Experiencing
7. This conscious part is what I call ‘I’
8. I address the body as ‘My Body’

My consciousness is different from physical body in the following manner:

1. I am self aware - My body is not self aware
2. I seek happiness - Body requires nurturing, maintenance, multiplication & protection
3. My requirements are continuous - My body's requirements are periodic
4. My requirements are not circumstances based - Bodies requirements are circumstances based
5. My requirements cannot be quantified - Bodies requirements are very much quantified
6. My target is to be in continuous state of happiness - Bodies target is growth and multiplication
7. I am not effected by physical-chemical changes in my environment - My body is effected by physical-chemical changes in its environment
8. There are no quantitative changes in me - Body is continuously changing quantitatively
   
   In all my interactions both body and mind are involved. The mind is where the initiation in form of wants/thoughts/desires takes place and the body is the tool with which I express it in the form of action or speech. For e.g I want to meet you. I express this want through my body by sitting in my car, driving it to your place and thus fulfilling it.
   
   If I look at all the acts that I do or all that I speak, I find the same pattern.
   
   There are some functions of my body where I do not play an active role, like breathing, heart beating, body temperature regulation etc These all happen on there own and are controlled by the system(inherent design) of my body.
   
   So, when I am interacting with someone both the components are being used but it’s the mind that gives direction to all my interactions. Similarly I see others.
   
   This knowledge is the basis of my interaction with others, when I am interacting in a relationship then I try to see what is the want/thought/desire behind the persons talk and acts. Since my inputs are restricted to what the person is expressing (through body) I keep looking at my self for interpreting the actions of others.
   
   This leads from the fact that I have this firm belief that all we humans have same inherent design.